11 phút - Paulo Coelho
"Vì thế ta nói với ngươi, những tội lỗi của người đàn bà này, dù rất nhiều, đều đã được tha thứ; bởi vì bà ta cũng đã yêu rất nhiều: còn với những kẻ ít được tha thứ hơn, bởi vì chúng không có được tình yêu như thế"
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nhưng bởi vì trong mọi khoảnh khắc của cuộc đời, tất cả chúng ta đều đặt một một chân đến mảnh đất của những câu chuyện thần tiên, còn chân kia lại ở vực thẳm.
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Vào khoảnh khắc nhận được tin dữ đó, Maria đã học được một điều rằng, có những thứ khi đã mất đi thì chắc chắn không bao giờ có thể tìm lại được nữa.
tr.21
Nhưng tôi đang nói gì vậy? Trong tình yêu, không ai có thể làm hại bất kì ai; chúng ta phải chịu trách nhiệm với chính những cảm xúc của mình và không thể đổ lỗi cho người khác vì những gì chúng ta cảm thấy.
Nhưng giờ đây, tôi tin rằng không ai đánh mất ai, vì không ai sở hữu ai.
Đó là trải nghiệm thật sự của tự do: có được thứ quan trọng nhất trên thế giới này mà không sở hữu nó.
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Mọi người đều biết yêu như thế nào, bởi tất cả chúng ta đều được sinh ra với món quà tình yêu. Một số người có tài năng bẩm sinh về lĩnh vực này, nhưng phần lớn chúng ta đều phải học lại, để ghi nhớ cách yêu, và mỗi người, không có ngoại lệ, đều cần phải thắp lên những ngọn lửa mừng của cảm xúc đã qua, để làm sống lại những niềm vui nỗi buồn, những thăng trầm, cho tới khi họ có thể thấy được sợi dây kết nối vẫn tồn tại ẩn sau mỗi cuộc đối đầu mới; bởi vì luôn có một sợi dây kết nối như thế.
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25 February 2009
21 February 2009
"Have you ever been in love?"
Horrible isn't it?
It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...
You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-y
ou-apart pain. I hate love.
It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...
You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-y
ou-apart pain. I hate love.
12 February 2009
G
[It' s time. I MUST leave]
Can you hear???? Time is RUNNINGGG OUTTTTTT
Diary from now, just here!
13th Feb,
morning...sleepy, late + present to celebrate the end of the lunar year, cleaning up office.
noon...stop by Crying Doll's house to give her SIM+ making a fone call to my dear old friend Fred + hungry + hot + listening to Ielts programme and sleeping.
afternoon ... wake up at 6pm.
evening... hanging out with Crying Doll and meeting my new friend Vu ( or old friend,this is just the first meet, we know each other for long time ago), dining.
back home... humhhhhh... i hate that. . i hate the one prefer saying something not true about me. lelèlélelè ... i do not care...what you are saying lelèlélelè. You would be PURNISHED by the OTHERS
and sleep
14th Feb, valentine get offffffffffffff
in the very first second of this morning... you... sobbing ... it hurts me ... sorry may be the most stupid word i can say...i can not now... this is the time i have to run fast... sorry for the valentine ... sorry me ... i hav to be firm
morning....i sleep not well and wake up in suprising myself, i can survive????
before noon ... hang out to take picture for reportage
noon ... buy a couble of gold rings for my parents [ for this day .....]
after noon .. get mad because of my stupid y-bro , he lied to me i dat to be in hunger for a long time!!!! I HATE THAT
after after noon ... sleeping...not wel but it s ok
evening ... sorry Crying doll, i can not come to ur house, be cause of something happen, i am the one to fill up the blank in my project talk show.... i mean i am on broadcasting SCTV1 ...
night ... just come to club for fun ...but i can not find anyfun here, stupid me!
after nite... back, chatitng with my PBear, stay up until 4am, being with PBear makes me feel good. i feel alone again! [ nope....i have to win myself ]
15th Feb
0:00 ... thanks God, Valentine day came over peacefully enough for me to still survive.
my dawn at 11am
Can you hear???? Time is RUNNINGGG OUTTTTTT
Diary from now, just here!
13th Feb,
morning...sleepy, late + present to celebrate the end of the lunar year, cleaning up office.
noon...stop by Crying Doll's house to give her SIM+ making a fone call to my dear old friend Fred + hungry + hot + listening to Ielts programme and sleeping.
afternoon ... wake up at 6pm.
evening... hanging out with Crying Doll and meeting my new friend Vu ( or old friend,this is just the first meet, we know each other for long time ago), dining.
back home... humhhhhh... i hate that. . i hate the one prefer saying something not true about me. lelèlélelè ... i do not care...what you are saying lelèlélelè. You would be PURNISHED by the OTHERS
and sleep
14th Feb, valentine get offffffffffffff
in the very first second of this morning... you... sobbing ... it hurts me ... sorry may be the most stupid word i can say...i can not now... this is the time i have to run fast... sorry for the valentine ... sorry me ... i hav to be firm
morning....i sleep not well and wake up in suprising myself, i can survive????
before noon ... hang out to take picture for reportage
noon ... buy a couble of gold rings for my parents [ for this day .....]
after noon .. get mad because of my stupid y-bro , he lied to me i dat to be in hunger for a long time!!!! I HATE THAT
after after noon ... sleeping...not wel but it s ok
evening ... sorry Crying doll, i can not come to ur house, be cause of something happen, i am the one to fill up the blank in my project talk show.... i mean i am on broadcasting SCTV1 ...
night ... just come to club for fun ...but i can not find anyfun here, stupid me!
after nite... back, chatitng with my PBear, stay up until 4am, being with PBear makes me feel good. i feel alone again! [ nope....i have to win myself ]
15th Feb
0:00 ... thanks God, Valentine day came over peacefully enough for me to still survive.
my dawn at 11am
08 February 2009
Thanh tẩY
Nước chảy xối xả vào mặt, trong từng hốc tai, hố miệng.....từng lỗ chân lông tôi có cảm giác như giãn nở mời gọi ngọn nước mát tràn vào....
Ngày mệt mỏi. Hôm nay tôi cảm thấy thật sự mệt mỏi. Sự mệt mỏi về tinh thần chứ không phải vật lý. Tính ra, hôm nay là một ngày khoẻ re đấy chứ, làm ít mà hưởng nhiều hơn so với bình thường....Nhưng tôi cảm thấy đầu óc nặng như búa tạ...Một cái gì đó không rõ có fải là sự vẩn đục hay không...nhưng tôi thề là tôi muốn tống khứ cảm giác đó ra ngoài. ...
tôi đi tắm. Một công việc ưa thích hàng ngày. Tắm lâu. Rất lâu. Nhưng mọi hôm là ngâm mình, hôm nay khác. Cả mấy tiếng đồng hồ tôi liên tục chà rửa khắp cơ thể như thể đấy là dơ bẩn từ lâu. Tôi kỳ cọ trong sự hốt hoảng. Sữa tắm....ôi tôi nhớ cái mùi hương điên loạn đấy....tôi bóp đấy sữa tắm ra tay nhắm át đi cái mùi trong trí tưởng tượng...vô vọng...Tôi dùng lotion tẩy tề bào chết....da sùi lên...tôi lại chà xát...da cáy đỏ...tôi đau rát....rõ là đây không fải tôi muốn khóc....một cái gì đó là sự hoảng sợ nhưng là gìn giữ....
mệt mỏi....tôi thấy cái vòi nước túa xối xả những giọt nước hoang mang trốn chạy khỏi nguồn nước....rơi tõm vào miệng tôi....nuốt chửng....((đau bụng thì sao??? nhỉ ))
..........
chóng vánh ....tôi chợt nhớ ra có một lần tôi đem cái định lí dở hơi của mình nói với một người "khi tắm là khi con người ta thành thật nhất" .... " quả đúng vậy, khi tắm, bạn thật trần tục, một sự trần tục chân thật, chân thật nhất từ trước tới nay - chẳng fải người đấu tiên bạn trông thấy khoả thân không fải là chính bạn sao??? -Khi đó là lúc con người muốn thanh tẩy cái sự dơ bẩn của cuộc sống hàng ngày để lại được "thanh khiết"....tôi trân trọng điều đó....từ nhỏ tôi đã thích nước....là vậy...nó mang lại cho tôi một cảm giác thật dễ chịu....khi ấy tôi thấy mình thật là thành thật một cách thánh thiện...tôi dám vui cười nhảy nhót hát hò khi tôi vui, tôi tập trung học bài trong khi tắm, tôi khóc thật nhiều thật to thật lâu khi buồn và nóng giận, tôi có thể gào thét chửi bới nguyền rủa điên loạn khi nổi giận.....
rời khỏi nhà tắm, tôi lại thấy mình bắt đầu bị ô nhiễm ...ô nhiễm ngay khi tôi off cái máy nước nóng, tôi...nhớ nước...tôi thèm nước...khát khao nước....nhưng ((không lẽ tắm wài??? )) cũng fải bước ra....
...cái thế giới dơ bẩn tràn đầy nhục cảm...hận thù...ghen tức...i am so scared....
.............
..............
report:...sau 3 hours tắm táp mình đã trở lại bình thường rồi...phù phù...lạnh wé! hav been just purified already hihihihi
Ngày mệt mỏi. Hôm nay tôi cảm thấy thật sự mệt mỏi. Sự mệt mỏi về tinh thần chứ không phải vật lý. Tính ra, hôm nay là một ngày khoẻ re đấy chứ, làm ít mà hưởng nhiều hơn so với bình thường....Nhưng tôi cảm thấy đầu óc nặng như búa tạ...Một cái gì đó không rõ có fải là sự vẩn đục hay không...nhưng tôi thề là tôi muốn tống khứ cảm giác đó ra ngoài. ...
tôi đi tắm. Một công việc ưa thích hàng ngày. Tắm lâu. Rất lâu. Nhưng mọi hôm là ngâm mình, hôm nay khác. Cả mấy tiếng đồng hồ tôi liên tục chà rửa khắp cơ thể như thể đấy là dơ bẩn từ lâu. Tôi kỳ cọ trong sự hốt hoảng. Sữa tắm....ôi tôi nhớ cái mùi hương điên loạn đấy....tôi bóp đấy sữa tắm ra tay nhắm át đi cái mùi trong trí tưởng tượng...vô vọng...Tôi dùng lotion tẩy tề bào chết....da sùi lên...tôi lại chà xát...da cáy đỏ...tôi đau rát....rõ là đây không fải tôi muốn khóc....một cái gì đó là sự hoảng sợ nhưng là gìn giữ....
mệt mỏi....tôi thấy cái vòi nước túa xối xả những giọt nước hoang mang trốn chạy khỏi nguồn nước....rơi tõm vào miệng tôi....nuốt chửng....((đau bụng thì sao??? nhỉ ))
..........
chóng vánh ....tôi chợt nhớ ra có một lần tôi đem cái định lí dở hơi của mình nói với một người "khi tắm là khi con người ta thành thật nhất" .... " quả đúng vậy, khi tắm, bạn thật trần tục, một sự trần tục chân thật, chân thật nhất từ trước tới nay - chẳng fải người đấu tiên bạn trông thấy khoả thân không fải là chính bạn sao??? -Khi đó là lúc con người muốn thanh tẩy cái sự dơ bẩn của cuộc sống hàng ngày để lại được "thanh khiết"....tôi trân trọng điều đó....từ nhỏ tôi đã thích nước....là vậy...nó mang lại cho tôi một cảm giác thật dễ chịu....khi ấy tôi thấy mình thật là thành thật một cách thánh thiện...tôi dám vui cười nhảy nhót hát hò khi tôi vui, tôi tập trung học bài trong khi tắm, tôi khóc thật nhiều thật to thật lâu khi buồn và nóng giận, tôi có thể gào thét chửi bới nguyền rủa điên loạn khi nổi giận.....
rời khỏi nhà tắm, tôi lại thấy mình bắt đầu bị ô nhiễm ...ô nhiễm ngay khi tôi off cái máy nước nóng, tôi...nhớ nước...tôi thèm nước...khát khao nước....nhưng ((không lẽ tắm wài??? )) cũng fải bước ra....
...cái thế giới dơ bẩn tràn đầy nhục cảm...hận thù...ghen tức...i am so scared....
.............
..............
report:...sau 3 hours tắm táp mình đã trở lại bình thường rồi...phù phù...lạnh wé! hav been just purified already hihihihi
05 February 2009
5 Hard-Learned Love Lessons
Such a long time i have never wanted to go to this so-called stupid blog to compose anything. Time flies as you guys know. I learn things and facts. According to what i read from psychology books and movies, especially Elegy- i hope i would be aired soon in Vietnam.
While there are very few guarantees in life and love, one thing's for sure. Along the road toward happily ever after, there will be plenty of bumps. But that doesn't necessarily make the journey unpleasant. In fact, some of the lessons you learn in life and love may be hard to swallow, but ultimately make you a stronger, healthier, and happier individual. What follows are five hard-learned love lessons. See which ones you've already encountered, as well as the ones you've yet to experience.
Lesson #1: Some Relationships are Temporary
When you acknowledge that some relationships are temporary, you learn to stop blaming yourself for what you perceive as relationship failures, and instead see them for what they are – valuable life lessons. With the benefit of hindsight, it's probably clear that the relationships that ended were with partners who weren't your perfect match.
Maybe your personalities didn't mesh, your goals and future vision were not aligned, or your priorities conflicted. As painful as these breakups can be, they happen for a reason. Not only that, but if you're totally honest with yourself, you'll admit that you're much better off as a result of the relationship and breakup than you would have been had you never experienced the love and loss in the first place.
Lesson #2: Learn/Apply your Lessons Quickly
Just as breakups happen for a reason, the lessons you learn as a result of heartache are valuable as well. For example, you may never have known the importance of being with someone who makes you a priority had you not gone through a relationship where your partner put work, friends, and hobbies before you. Or you may not have realized the importance of healthy family relationships until you dated someone whose family life was incredibly dysfunctional. Not only is it important to identify the lessons you learn along the journey toward happily ever after, but you owe it to yourself to apply the lessons learned, paying attention to red flags as they are revealed to you in the future.
Lesson #3: Your partner Cannot fix you or your Life
Once upon a time, women were raised to believe that Prince Charming would one day swoop in on a white steed and save them from whatever they didn't like about themselves or their lives. In 2008, this antiquated fairy tale is in need of a major rewrite. In fact, if your perfect partner were to arrive in the middle of your messy and miserable life, chances are he would make a hasty retreat. Which is why it's essential to take steps to fix whatever it is that you don't enjoy about your life, starting today. If you don't like your job, do something about it. Don't expect some guy to solve your problems or rescue you from your everyday existence. It's just not going to happen. Instead, it's up to you to rescue yourself.
Lesson #4: Figure out What Really Makes you Happy
Since it's unlikely that your perfect partner will magically appear and save the day, it’s essential that you figure out what makes you happy – today! Once you do, empower yourself to take the necessary steps to change your life accordingly. By creating and embracing a life you love, you're all the more likely to attract the love of your life. In doing so, you increase your chances of relationship success, because both you and your partner were happy as individuals before coming together as a couple.
Lesson #5: Time Between Relationships is just as Valuable as being in a Relationship
We all know someone who floats from partner to partner, relationship to relationship. However, this kind of behavior is not something to envy. Truthfully, time between relationships is just as important to your personal growth as time spent in relationships. By taking time after a breakup to heal, learn your lessons, and get to know the new you that's emerging as a result of those life experiences, you give yourself the opportunity to grow as an individual. Plus, you discover your own resilience, something you'd never experience if you floated from partner to partner. It's these life lessons that ultimately make you a better person and eventually a better partner in your next relationship. Don't cheat yourself out of valuable ME time between breakups. You'll miss out on so much!
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ANyway these 5 lessons are really useful in contributing to your personal development! Some may seem to be common sense but many of us may be unconsciously doing the opposite.
I managed to learn these lessons...so could you!! There'll be times when loneliness may hit u (during in-between relationship period, ex &post sessions are included) but its better to learn to deal with it on ur own than to anyhow get involved in a r/s to chase it away! Anyway if feel lonely, can always come here & find pple to chat with~~ Haha or find your friendss...
JJunio
While there are very few guarantees in life and love, one thing's for sure. Along the road toward happily ever after, there will be plenty of bumps. But that doesn't necessarily make the journey unpleasant. In fact, some of the lessons you learn in life and love may be hard to swallow, but ultimately make you a stronger, healthier, and happier individual. What follows are five hard-learned love lessons. See which ones you've already encountered, as well as the ones you've yet to experience.
Lesson #1: Some Relationships are Temporary
When you acknowledge that some relationships are temporary, you learn to stop blaming yourself for what you perceive as relationship failures, and instead see them for what they are – valuable life lessons. With the benefit of hindsight, it's probably clear that the relationships that ended were with partners who weren't your perfect match.
Maybe your personalities didn't mesh, your goals and future vision were not aligned, or your priorities conflicted. As painful as these breakups can be, they happen for a reason. Not only that, but if you're totally honest with yourself, you'll admit that you're much better off as a result of the relationship and breakup than you would have been had you never experienced the love and loss in the first place.
Lesson #2: Learn/Apply your Lessons Quickly
Just as breakups happen for a reason, the lessons you learn as a result of heartache are valuable as well. For example, you may never have known the importance of being with someone who makes you a priority had you not gone through a relationship where your partner put work, friends, and hobbies before you. Or you may not have realized the importance of healthy family relationships until you dated someone whose family life was incredibly dysfunctional. Not only is it important to identify the lessons you learn along the journey toward happily ever after, but you owe it to yourself to apply the lessons learned, paying attention to red flags as they are revealed to you in the future.
Lesson #3: Your partner Cannot fix you or your Life
Once upon a time, women were raised to believe that Prince Charming would one day swoop in on a white steed and save them from whatever they didn't like about themselves or their lives. In 2008, this antiquated fairy tale is in need of a major rewrite. In fact, if your perfect partner were to arrive in the middle of your messy and miserable life, chances are he would make a hasty retreat. Which is why it's essential to take steps to fix whatever it is that you don't enjoy about your life, starting today. If you don't like your job, do something about it. Don't expect some guy to solve your problems or rescue you from your everyday existence. It's just not going to happen. Instead, it's up to you to rescue yourself.
Lesson #4: Figure out What Really Makes you Happy
Since it's unlikely that your perfect partner will magically appear and save the day, it’s essential that you figure out what makes you happy – today! Once you do, empower yourself to take the necessary steps to change your life accordingly. By creating and embracing a life you love, you're all the more likely to attract the love of your life. In doing so, you increase your chances of relationship success, because both you and your partner were happy as individuals before coming together as a couple.
Lesson #5: Time Between Relationships is just as Valuable as being in a Relationship
We all know someone who floats from partner to partner, relationship to relationship. However, this kind of behavior is not something to envy. Truthfully, time between relationships is just as important to your personal growth as time spent in relationships. By taking time after a breakup to heal, learn your lessons, and get to know the new you that's emerging as a result of those life experiences, you give yourself the opportunity to grow as an individual. Plus, you discover your own resilience, something you'd never experience if you floated from partner to partner. It's these life lessons that ultimately make you a better person and eventually a better partner in your next relationship. Don't cheat yourself out of valuable ME time between breakups. You'll miss out on so much!
-------------------------------------------------
ANyway these 5 lessons are really useful in contributing to your personal development! Some may seem to be common sense but many of us may be unconsciously doing the opposite.
I managed to learn these lessons...so could you!! There'll be times when loneliness may hit u (during in-between relationship period, ex &post sessions are included) but its better to learn to deal with it on ur own than to anyhow get involved in a r/s to chase it away! Anyway if feel lonely, can always come here & find pple to chat with~~ Haha or find your friendss...
JJunio
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